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Hi somuchinlove. I do remember your story. Too bad. Sounds like that guy is a real idiot. Sounds immature too. A friend of a friend is a police officer - so I can try to find out from him what the rules are when it comes to noise policies.
I wouldn't move if you can help it. That's not fair to you and your FH. It seems like you love your house, but the people next door have to go. I'd give it right back to them. You know - maybe early the next morning after they've partied all night, blast YOUR music or TV and see how THEY like it. Or start hanging a few pictures at 7am.
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BUT, be careful, he might get physically abusive is you get into a "war" with him. He sounds like he doesn't give a damn abut anyone except himself.
If I were you, I would either rent out my house or sell it and move. You will never win this battle with people like that. The more they think it bothers you, the more they will do it and it will become an impossible situation to live with.
Back away before it becomes something more unpleasant than it already is.
SELL! Move on.....the grass IS greener somewhere else !
KAY
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Steffy and Kay say to sell. I agree with them. BUT I would stick it out a bit longer, and take kittywee's advice: don't confront them - things could get worse.
I would (as hard as it will be) just IGNORE the goof until you decide whether you will stay, rent your house out or sell.
What do the people who are attached on the other side say about the noise?
June 26, 2004
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Hi everyone! To answer Becky's question about the people attached on the other side: the way our townhouses are designed is that you are only attached on one side - the other side of our house has an alleyway leading to the backyard. So in otherwords, WE are the only "lucky" ones attached to the idiots.
Also, update on one more ANNNNNNNOYING thing they've being doing - they have a very large husky dog too and it seems around 11:45pm every night for the past 4 or 5 nights in a row ... they've been playing ball with the dog. (It sounds like) They are throwing the ball against the wall and the ball is dropping down the stairs and the dog it chasing it and running back up the stairs with the ball..... and this repeats for at least 15 to 30 minutes just before midnight. Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!
And, Agnes, what you said is true about showing the house if we do decide to sell is the noise they could be making while potential buyers are viewing. The guitar playing crap usually starts around 6pm and usually goes until 11:00pm but on weekends it seems to go into the night 1am, 2am sometimes. So I guess we would only be able to show the house during the daytimes only.
OMG please let THEM move instead of forcing us to!!
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There MUST be something you can do to stop them! If it was me, I would go to a police station and explain the situation - they could at least advise you of your rights - you must have some rights - these people are PLAIN IGNORANT and they can't continue on like that. If you're nervous about going to the police station, you can just call them on the phone and don't give them your name.
June 26, 2004
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I'd go with Becky's advice - go talk to the police! I'm sure they get "bad neighbor" complaints all the time - they can hopefully give you some advice - who knows, maybe they're special rules re. homes that are attached?
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People who are that inconsiderate of their neighbours are not the kind of people who would be too intimated by police or anyone for that matter. That type of person will do ANYTHING he can to get you back if you cause him any problems. Maybe he will spray paint your car or something during the night, but he WILL get you back.
I have known people like that and they don't rest unless the win.
You know, Angela has made a very good point. If they are that type of person - they are likely not afraid of the police coming over once in a while telling them to turn down their stereo.
You mentioned that they have a dog - that would be another thing that would concern me. It may be a bit far-fetched to think this way, but, you have to be careful about the dog. If it's big or vicious like some pitbulls are trained to be, the goofball could say something to the dog to attack you. What kind of dog is it?
Maybe I'm sounding a bit on the paranoid side, but you never know - crazyer things have happened...
June 26, 2004
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OMG, this whole thing sounds just awful. You said you live in a townhouse, is this a 'strata' type community? If so I would also go to the strata council. Start keeping a journal of the times and dates that they carry on very late at night, and of any contact you've had with them, ie the note and then the verbal abuse. Find out from your local police what time the noice bylaw kicks in and what rights you have when someone disobeys it. You don't have to do anymore with the police, you they only one who can decide wether or not it'll be worth it to fight this one or not. A lot of men are really brave when yelling at a woman when shes by herself but not necessarily so with a man or the cops. I live in a strata, all detached houses. but even in our rules if continued noise pollution does not get resolved then the offender receives a fine from the strata. If any monies are left overdue to the strata for extended length of time then they can send to collections, or put a lein on the property etc. Find out if this guy owns or rents from someone else. If renting contact the owner. Tell them what you plan to do.(esp if in strata, i am sure the owners wont want added fees) Good luck and be safe.
April is getting close....ack.
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Hi Tygger: What does "strata" mean? does it mean condo fees? Is so, then "no" we don't have anything like that where we live. The houses are joined on one side only - so they are classified as "semi's" and everyone is responsible for their own property upkeep. And we are located on a city street (not a complex).
So I think it's up to "me" to complain to the police - I'm just afraid of starting something that could lead to more problems.
One good thing though (for now...) is that the guitar-playing has pretty much stopped - in the past two weeks - he's only played it about 3 or 4 nights - before...for months he was playing EVERY SINGLE NIGHT.
The ball playing with the dog still goes on every day, but that's minor in comparison to the guitar.
I can't understand why it's stopped - he seemed pretty angry when I saw him earlier this month - maybe his wife had "a talking to him".
And Becky, you mentioned about the dog attacking - OMG that crossed my mind too. The dog is large and husky - it's black - I don't know much about dogs - I don't know what kind it is, but it's definitely NOT a pitbull - thank God.
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Holy cow! I'm brand new to this board. I just read your story - what a shame. Why is it that some people just don't have manners - have no respect for others. You poor thing...you shouldn't have to pack your bags and move! If you're afraid to go to the police, then maybe every time after he plays the guitar, the next day, drop him a quick note in his mail box. Let him know YOU aren't giving up. Maybe he'll evenually get the hint. Good luck.
All I can say is THANK GOD IT IS NOT ME!!! I hate a lot of racket and confusion around me. I get migraine headaches and I am afraid all that guitar playing would make me very sick. Yuk!!!!!
Glad to here the guitar playing has subsided. Who knows - maybe after he was rude to you - he probably went inside and told his wife what he said and she probably told him to grow up!
Good thing the dog isn't a pitbull.
Hang in there!
June 26, 2004
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Just logged on this thread to see if there is another update yet. Dying to hear how it goes this week-end. Not that there is anything special about this week-end but usually that is when people like to party a bit.
Well here I am... it's 11:20pm. For the SECOND night in a row I can't sleep because the looooooooooosers next door are having a jam session. They are making me nuts.
For about 2 weeks they were rarely playing but the last few nights they're back to their annoying habits.
I have a feeling I'll be up late tonight - there are 4 extra cars at their house which means they're having a party.
I've come to the conclusion that they are just plain ignorant.
We've had a lot of snow here lately and I was shoveling our walkway the other day and noticed lots of yellow snow on MY side. That means they're letting their dog urinate on my property. I'm VERY particular when it comes to my garden and my lawn in general.
If I find dog poop on my lawn, I'll "strategically" place it on their front step. Hahaha
I'm going to write another letter tonight and drop it in their mailbox tomorrow morning. I'll let ya know how everything goes...
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